- Thursday, September 13, 2012
- Posted in toddlerhood,travel

{on the ferry to victoria. he got his blue moon wish for a ferry boat ride! here he was chatting with passersby, whether they wanted him to or not! he told many imaginary stories, which is how he communicates with people. one patient grandma stood and listened to him for 10 minutes.}

{seeking an adventure. ended up going on a ferry taxi tour. that is the Empress Hotel in the background. breathtaking.}

{that bus in the background was our tour bus! i’ve always wanted to do the afternoon tea at the Empress. someday…}

{coolest public toilet ever. good thing no one was in there while cedar was saying “helloooooo?”}

{on the bus, we had the whole downstairs to ourselves because cedar didn’t want to be on the top. he felt safer down below. i learned so much about the history of the city on this tour!}

{solstic cafe…our favorite place to get yerba mate lattes. they gave cedar a straw dipped in honey. what a sweet treat. their dark hot chocolate with honey was a favorite of his too.}


{a park at beacon hill. here cedar had a bit of a break through playing with others with the help of a boy with a kindred spirit. at first he said “there are too many kids here!” but then this sweet quirky little boy that didn’t want to talk to cedar just sat or stood near him. and he let cedar chatter on and he listened and somehow, that gave cedar courage to feel safer in this environment.}

{listening intently to the captain on the ferry taxi tour. we saw the most adorable house boats! we are tempted to retire on a house boat someday.}

{fan tan alley. one of my favorite places to browse. so teeny tiny and full of hippy earthy shops.}

{cedar picked this fan out in china town over a toy.}

{my boys outside the museum, pretending to be totem poles}

{at an exhibit at the Royal BC Museum}

{us on the double decker bus tour}

{resting on daddy after a long day of adventures}
Victoria is a place we have visited each year since our honeymoon. Sometimes twice a year and now that we are a bit closer, perhaps it will be more. We are so drawn to this gorgeous city!
The last few times we brought Cedar, I noticed there was an underlying sense of being a bit bummed that we couldn’t do all we used to do BC (Before Cedar): Sit at an Irish pub, drink Ciders and listen to stories from tourists or locals, filling our bellies with yummy spicy Ceasars and watching hockey, walking around the city at night after romantic dates at a new restaurant, long drives for hours exploring the island. Don’t get me wrong, we so enjoyed our time there with him but I also found ourselves stuck in the muck of old expectations and spending energy trying to release them. We weren’t really wanting to admit it to one another but it was just an energy that was there.
This time around, I wanted to be more present and aware of our reality. The reality that vacations with toddlers aren’t always relaxing and full of sleeping in and doing things on a whim. Especially when Cedar is more comfy knowing what’s happening next and also repeating things that bring him a sense of joy…over and over!! Going into this trip with the intention that it will be all about toddler-ness, completely shifted the energy for us. We still did many of the same things we did the last few times we were there with Cedar but this time, that sense of longing to do or be somewhere else on the island wasn’t there. We were right there with Cedar, seeing it through his eyes, following his rhythms and it felt gooooood to our souls.
I left remembering how important it is to be present in the moment and to let go of expectations and go with the flow of now whether on vacation or at home or anywhere, really. Its a simple concept but it takes practice. Daily.















September 13, 2012
beautiful and so love your words about this denise…….being present….letting go of expectations and going with the flow! amen….and it really does take practice…..daily!!! thanks for the reminder…and happy you all had a fulfilling time!
September 13, 2012
Just wait you’llbe enjoying vacations closer to what you dreamed/imagined once you’re out of toddlerhood. Our kids are at a great stage 10, 7, 4 and are enjoying the less kid-centric things we plan. Love your photos of BC. Looks magical.
September 14, 2012
Such beautiful photos, it looks amazing there! And the photo of Cedar listening to the captain is divine! x
September 14, 2012
Gorgeous trip and true sentiments about how to enjoy your vacation and life in general– absolutely!! I would love to visit this part of the world. Thank you for sharing your family vacation with us!!
September 14, 2012
Oh, you sweet Boho family ~ any adventure is a good one if you’re all together. I can see why you love going to this beautiful place.
September 14, 2012
Victoria is where I live.
I love where I live and forget about that fact sometimes during the day-to-day; home, to work, then home again. It’s such a treasure to see it through someone else’s eyes.
And I adore the ferry taxi (pickle boat!) photo. Your family is beautiful.
September 14, 2012
i just want to slip in and whisper that you look absolutely delicious.
<3
September 14, 2012
We had a weeklong vacation in Maine at the end of August with our 3-year-old and 1-year-old and I really benefited from the same approach. I told myself, it’s not about relaxing or spending hours reading like we used to do on vacation, it’s about being in a beautiful place and watching our kids respond to it. And it was great, although tiring. I think the main thing is that these little kid years are so short. Soon enough they will be off doing their own thing a lot of the time.
September 14, 2012
I am from the island, and have lived in lovely Victoria, though I now happily live a few hour’s drive north. Your photos and the accompanying story are so lovely and so is your family!
September 14, 2012
thank you! i needed that last paragraph more then you could imagine!
September 14, 2012
Dear sweet Cedar , my Reuben says hello , you have beautiful hair , we have just come from a weekend at the sea , just five minutes from where we live , no connection to the outside world and toes in the sea , just what was needed , it felt great to let go to the sea , Reuben is newly diagnosed and we are still finding our feet , we have started using a visual timetable as holidays are difficult , it’s an amazing way of letting him know what’s coming x
September 14, 2012
Thank you! I leave today and I just can’t wait
Oh yes. Toddler traveling! You are so aware of your feelings and I love how you both consciously take action to spin things back to positive. Cedar senses it, I’m sure. Everything is for a season…it has only been the last few years that we have wrangled the uncle and aunt to take care of our kids while we jet off for a weekend of couple rejuvenation. We didn’t for a long time, though.
Loved these photos and recap. What a lovely family you are!
September 14, 2012
Everyone does love their strongbow cider in Victoria.
I miss it. Vacations with babies/toddlers definitely are not the most relaxing. You’re right, you just have to adjust your expectations.
September 15, 2012
Enjoy the time and savor toddler-hood! They grow up so very fast. Cedar may walk on your toes for now, but soon, very soon it will be your heart.
Your pix, as always are stunning.
September 16, 2012
Happy Birthday lovely Denise! You get more beautiful with each passing year! I hope your day was full of beauty, joy and love! c:
September 20, 2012
hi there , it is nice to see my home through your eyes . you should come in the summer on a Sunday there is a big market where Cedar was yelling into the bathroom. glad you liked the little gem here. If you like solstice cafe you should check out sitka it is really nice there.
September 22, 2012
oh how i wish my littlest man would let me tie his hair back. even just sometimes, other than when we’re eating, just for a short while so i can show off his locks but also see his precious face better. cedar is just precious!